The Wedding Feast
"The crofter of old had to work so
hard to obtain a livelihood and had so few of the luxuries
of life that it is little wonder that a wedding was welcomed
in the township as a festive occasion, when privation and
toil might be exchanged for feasting and hilarity."
The wedding feast was the
grandest and most abundant meal the bride's family and friends
could afford.
Due to the size of a typical
Orkney house, the bride's home would be emptied of furniture
so that long tables (often just long planks placed on barrels)
could be set up for the wedding guests.
Outside, the barn was scrubbed
clean and prepared for the dancing and merrymaking that followed
the wedding feast.
A traditional wedding feast
consisted of broth and oatcakes followed by joints of beef or
mutton. Ducks, geese, hens and rabbits were also served, along
with barley-meal bannocks and pancakes. These were washed down with copious
quantities of home-brewed ale.
Feast
preparations
The preparations for the
marriage-feast had begun in earnest after contract-night, with the slaughter of animals and poultry, the baking of scones,
bannocks and pancakes and the brewing of ale.
These preparations were
not restricted to the house of the bride. Everyone who was to attend the forthcoming wedding was also expected to contribute gifts of meat,
ale or scones.
The wedding cogs
At the wedding feast, the
ale was always drunk from wooden vessels known as cogs.
These cogs were - and still are - undoubtedly the most essential
of all the ingredients that went to make up an island wedding. In later years, the traditional
ale came to be replaced by a potent alcoholic mixture, the like
of which still astounds visitors.
The traditions surrounding
the handling of the cogs were complex and are further discussed
here. Generally, however, the bride was always the first to drink from
the cog whereupon it was handed round the gathering, great care
being taken to ensure it travelled in a sunwise direction.
Apart from the Grand March,
which is a later variant of the old Wedding Walk, the passing
round of the Bride's Cog is the only ceremony still found at Orkney
weddings today.
The Orcadian guests still watch with
a wry smile as an unsuspecting incomer gulps down great mouthfuls
of cog, blissfully unaware of the consequences of their actions.
Wedding entertainment
As soon as the meal had been
consumed, the drinking began and the night's entertainment commenced.
Often this started with someone called upon to sing.
As late as the first half
of the 18th century, there were men known as menye-singers, who sang ballads at public occasions. In addition to the singing,
stories were told and toasts issued, while the younger guests retired
to the barn for the music and dancing.
There was a time when people
attending a wedding were loath to give up the feasting and dancing
too soon. Therefore, it was quite normal for an old Orkney wedding to
last three or four days - or till all the food was eaten and all
the drink quaffed.
On these occasions, the guests
would retire to makeshift dormitories within the outbuildings
to snatch some sleep as and when required.
This prolonged celebration
was not such an imposition on the bride's parents as might be
supposed, for, as has been mentioned, the guests always brought
a considerable amount of the food and drink with them.
The bedtime heuld-horn
On these extended celebrations
we have a record of a custom known as the heuld-horn,
sometimes referred to as the heuld-cog or bed-drink.
After the slumbering guests
had been asleep for a few hours, they were woken by the geud-wife,
who would offer them a drink from an ale-cog. This was thought necessary
to ensure a refreshing sleep.
More recently, however, weddings
generally lasted only one night, although often carrying on through
the darkness until sunrise. At these weddings,
the passing round of the Bride's Cog was usually regarded as a
signal for the guests to begin making their way home.
The celebrations end
A dance known as the Bobadybouster marked the official end of the celebration, after which it was
the privilege of some of the bride's most intimate friends
to undress her and prepare her for her wedding night.
It was also known for the
attending young men to carry out a similar duty - ensuring
that the groom was undressed and bedded.
In a typical boisterous fashion,
the undressing of the groom usually involved plenty of horse-play,
with numerous attempts made to steal away items of the bride's
clothing.
Success at this endeavour
was regarded as an honourable triumph for the men and an affront
to the women. The attempts often involved hiding, subterfuge or
simply brute force, but more often than not they were foiled by the
girls attending the bride, who were well aware of the menfolk's
intentions.
Burning the sneud
While these capers were under way,
some of the older women were known to perform the secret
ceremony known as "the burning of the sneud". This was so secret
that exact details are still unclear.
The sneud was
the narrow ribbon used for tying up hair. Regarded as a badge of virginity,
the sneud was removed by the bride's mother when she dressed her daughter for the wedding. Once the household was silent, sleeping or drunk, the
mother and her close friends removed a hot stone from the fire
and placed the sneud on it.
From the shape the ribbon
took while burning, these wise women thought they could divine some
knowledge of the bride's future - especially in relation to fertility
and prosperity.
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